The Comfort of a Good Manicure

When I lived in Manhattan, way before kids, I used to go to my local nail salon once, sometimes even twice, a week.  What was once no big deal seems like an extravagance these days of >$4.00 a gallon gas.  So what's a girl to do?  Giving myself a...

What Is Intimacy?

Imagine a coin labeled "Relating to Another Person".  On one side of the coin is Empathy, on the other is Intimacy.  Empathy is when you feel and understand what another person is feeling, experiencing.  Intimacy is about how you feel when...

The Five Foundations of a Good Relationship

A few years back I had lunch with a colleague who is also a couples therapist.  In our conversation about the challenges of helping couples realize what is fundamental for a healthy relationship, my friend sited these five elements. He thought it came...

Perfectionism… The Dark Side

Ten days since since my last post. Ouch. There are many excuses, good ones too, like my bout with stomach flu over a week ago and family events to fuss over. But I have to admit the real reason is a relapse of a recurring affliction… perfectionism. Perfectionism...