Today I'm happy to introduce guest blogger Ben Klempner, LMSW, founder and editor of Effective Family
.  On his blog, Ben provides up-to-date, reliable
information and resources to help strengthen and improve relationships and
overall well-being. Inspired by my article For Divorced Dads: Seven Useful Links, Ben generously contributed this guest post…

Too often the first question that comes to mind when someone meets a divorced dad is whether or not he's meeting his alimony payments. Divorced or separated fathers who are dedicated to their children are in tremendous pain (whether they show it or not) wanting nothing more than to provide for the physical, emotional, and mental needs of their children. 

The following ten tips provide single dads with some guidance and ideas to maximize the effectiveness and influence of their parenting:

  • Never to bad mouth your children's mother in their presence.
  • Ask your children how their day was and listen attentively to the answer.
  • Help your children with their homework.
  • Know the names of all your children's teachers and the subjects they teach.
  • Know the names of your children's friends and a little something about them (the more you know the better).
  • Have meaningful and instructive experiences with your children that provide a sense of continuity and a sense of routine from visit to visit (like karate or yoga lessons).
  • Know how your children are doing in their school studies and extracurricular activities.
  • Compliment your children on their successes.
  • Keep open lines of communication with your children's other primary caregivers if at all possible.
  • Savor each moment spent with your children.

Do you have more tips? Leave them in the comments below!

Visit Ben Klempner's blog EffectiveFamilyCommunication.com and follow him on Twitter.

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