Alisa Bowman is the author of the popular blog Project Happily Ever After. That Alisa isn’t a trained couples therapist always amazes me. She deserves an honorary degree! I couldn’t resist sharing this particular post with you. I totally agree with everything on her list. I especially like the first ones that have to do with facing conflict gracefully and with respect. In fact, now that I think of it, a lot of these points could apply to any close relationship, with a sister, say, or a close friend.
Do you agree? Would you add anything?
Hi Dr. A,
I’ll never forget what a pastor at my old church said in a sermon about marriage: “When you’re dating, keep your eyes wide open; when you’re married, keep your eyes half closed.” This advice, which to me means not sweating the small stuff, not focusing on your spouse’s shortcomings, forgiving mistakes quickly, etc., has been a mainstay in my 16-year, (mostly) happy marriage :-).
This is brilliant, Maureen. Thank you for your validating comment!