There are many myths about what it means to be strong. I hear people saying, “you’re so strong” to each other often in a variety of contexts. I heard it recently when a stoic widow gave the eulogy at her husband’s funeral, when a young boy broke his ankle but didn’t shed a tear, and when a teenage girl shrugged off her painful breakup, seemingly unaffected. Is this really strength? Maybe, but it leads into this misconception that strength means we don’t feel.

3 Myths about What it Means to be Strong

3 Myths about What it Means to be Strong

Myth #1: Strong people don’t cry.

More factually, strength is the ability to feel emotions and release them appropriately. It takes incredible vulnerability to cry, alone and/or in front of others, and it allows us to work through what is there. Although repressing, avoiding, and suppressing our feelings are coping mechanisms that have a purpose, having these mechanisms be our default is not strength—it’s avoidance!

Myth #2: Strong people don’t complain.

Well, come on, we all complain!! Wallowing in self-pity is different than complaining about unpleasant circumstances for a period of time. Complaining appropriately can allow us to practice acceptance of our circumstances and plan for what our next steps are. And sometimes, it just feels good to let it out!!

Myth #3: Strong people aren’t anxious.

Instead, people who exhibit strength have, like most, wavering confidence. There are so many choices in life and so many things that are uncertain. Strength involves being able to choose a path, relish in its successes, and/or practice self-forgiveness when the path leads to a dead end.

Why are these myths a problem? People who acknowledge and express pain, even while demonstrating resiliency, might feel weak and might assume this means they are weak. Strength is about being adaptable to change, recognizing and expressing needs, learning from mistakes, persevering when things get tough, and finding meaning and purpose in adverse times.

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Dr. Tacianna Indovina knew that she wanted to be a therapist since she was in high school. From that time, her love and enthusiasm for the healing power of psychotherapy hasn’t wavered. It’s a good thing for our community that Tacianna is as enthusiastic as ever for helping people when they feel overwhelmed, discouraged, and alone. 

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