We’re All Faking It: Tips to Manage Imposter Syndrome
We're all faking it. Really. When I got to grad school, I looked around and saw accomplished, eloquent, and well-established men and women. Instead of feeling excited about being able to learn from and get to know these people, I felt flooded with feelings of...
Social Etiquette Tips for Social Media
The way people socialize has evolved significantly throughout the years. The parents of the millennial generation did not have the same level of instantaneous communication that we have today. With email, texting, FaceTime, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, dating...
Is It OK To Cuss In Therapy?
This has happened so many times. I'm working with a client. In the middle of a session, deep in conversation. They let out a "F&%k" or a "Sh*t!" after which, as if they had emitted a very loud, involuntary fart, they slap their hand over their mouth. Eyes wide...
Why Try Therapy?
Why try therapy? That's a great question. Let me tell you a story, and then I'll tackle some common objections to trying therapy. I got a free trial of Sirius radio a few years ago when I bought my car. I was changing channels and stumbled upon...
5 Steps To Stop Being The Family Scapegoat
Are you your family's scapegoat? How would you know? Do you find yourself on the defensive a lot? Do you hear stories, first or second hand, from various members of the family about your bad behavior? Stories that are very old, or not true or at best,...
Can Therapy Be Fun?
Can therapy be fun? Therapy is tough work! Some people say they feel exhausted after a counseling session. After all, it often involves talking about feelings and life events that are very difficult. At the same time, it can be fun and humorous! Humor is an important...
Could You Use a Therapist?
There are a lot of people out there who could use a good therapist only they don't know it. Do you wonder if you could use a therapist’s help but always seem to talk yourself out of it? You could think you are functioning just fine and still be in need of help. When...
Five Signs that Your Job is Toxic
In my college years, attaining independence became my primary goal. To me, independence meant being able to support myself. It seemed like I was working so hard toward one goal: getting a “good job.” For example, I thought a good job equaled full-time...
Best Blog Articles on Explore What’s Next 2018!
How long can we be wishing each other a Happy New Year? A very hip friend of mine who knows these things answered with confidence, “All the way through January!”Taking this bit of wisdom, I decided it wasn’t too late for a good old fashioned “Best of 2018”...
3 Myths about What it Means to be Strong
There are many myths about what it means to be strong. In a variety of contexts, I hear people say to each other, “you’re so strong.” Recently, I heard it when a stoic widow gave the eulogy at her husband’s funeral, when a young boy broke his ankle but...
Four Rules of Engagement
You got engaged over the holidays! Congratulations! That is so exciting! I am very happy for you both. What's next? Wedding planning! Yay! Or is it, Yay? Turning to a pop culture reference I'm reminded of a scene in the movie Bride Wars. The focus finally turns away...
Grieving Around the Holidays
Grieving around the holidays is the norm for many, but it's not just humans who grieve. Jodi Picoult’s “Leaving Time” is one of my favorite books. It’s about a mother-daughter relationship where the mother is an elephant researcher. Already being a huge fan of...
5 New Years Resolutions That Can Make Us Happy
New Year’s resolutions. Just the words make my heart a little sad. What we need is a New Years resolution makeover! A resolution revolution if you will! I propose throwing those negative, judgy, restricting resolutions into the Explore What’s Next...
When Is It The Right Time To Break Up?
Around this time of year, along with the presents and twinkle lights, there are people holding their breath. They are holding their breath because they are in a relationship that isn't working and they're waiting for the right time to break up. If you are one of those...
My 3 Holiday Wishes For All Of Us
All I want for Christmas is to get through this season with some peace of mind, heart, and body. Is that asking too much? Sometimes I wonder. Even with all the tips, I've written about, and the great ones from others that I've read, I still find myself caught up in...
6 Ways How to Manage the Holidays With an Eating Disorder
The holidays can be a stressful time for anyone, but it is especially challenging if you are working to manage the holidays with an eating disorder. When you have an eating disorder, holiday foods and holiday events with food can be huge triggers. There are a lot of...
6 Articles About Surviving The Holidays
The holidays are great in so many ways. It ranges from spending time with family and loved ones to just taking a break from the daily grind of routine. However sometimes this special time of the year starts to become burdensome and difficult on us and it becomes...
Tips For The Holidays!
The holidays are upon us! No matter if you celebrate Chanukah, Kwanzaa, Christmas or your own Winter Holiday like Festivus, we know that life gets hectic. Truthfully, it's often fun and sometimes it can also be a stressful time for all of us. We asked the...
4 tips for online dating
Dating has changed drastically over the past generations. Although I have been dating my husband before online dating became popular, thus have never used it, I am a huge advocate for it! In the past, if we looked at married couples, most were from the...
3 Contributions to an Unhappy Marriage
Deciding if and when to go to couples therapy is really tough. We often hear people talk about efforts being “too little, too late.” According to the Gottman Institute (Gottman.com), the average couple waits 6 years before seeking help for marital...
We’re All Faking It: Tips to Manage Imposter Syndrome
We're all faking it. Really. When I got to grad school, I looked around and saw accomplished, eloquent, and well-established men and women. Instead of feeling excited about being able to learn from and get to know these people, I felt flooded with feelings of...
Social Etiquette Tips for Social Media
The way people socialize has evolved significantly throughout the years. The parents of the millennial generation did not have the same level of instantaneous communication that we have today. With email, texting, FaceTime, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, dating...
Is It OK To Cuss In Therapy?
This has happened so many times. I'm working with a client. In the middle of a session, deep in conversation. They let out a "F&%k" or a "Sh*t!" after which, as if they had emitted a very loud, involuntary fart, they slap their hand over their mouth. Eyes wide...
Why Try Therapy?
Why try therapy? That's a great question. Let me tell you a story, and then I'll tackle some common objections to trying therapy. I got a free trial of Sirius radio a few years ago when I bought my car. I was changing channels and stumbled upon...
5 Steps To Stop Being The Family Scapegoat
Are you your family's scapegoat? How would you know? Do you find yourself on the defensive a lot? Do you hear stories, first or second hand, from various members of the family about your bad behavior? Stories that are very old, or not true or at best,...
Can Therapy Be Fun?
Can therapy be fun? Therapy is tough work! Some people say they feel exhausted after a counseling session. After all, it often involves talking about feelings and life events that are very difficult. At the same time, it can be fun and humorous! Humor is an important...
Could You Use a Therapist?
There are a lot of people out there who could use a good therapist only they don't know it. Do you wonder if you could use a therapist’s help but always seem to talk yourself out of it? You could think you are functioning just fine and still be in need of help. When...
Five Signs that Your Job is Toxic
In my college years, attaining independence became my primary goal. To me, independence meant being able to support myself. It seemed like I was working so hard toward one goal: getting a “good job.” For example, I thought a good job equaled full-time...
Best Blog Articles on Explore What’s Next 2018!
How long can we be wishing each other a Happy New Year? A very hip friend of mine who knows these things answered with confidence, “All the way through January!”Taking this bit of wisdom, I decided it wasn’t too late for a good old fashioned “Best of 2018”...
3 Myths about What it Means to be Strong
There are many myths about what it means to be strong. In a variety of contexts, I hear people say to each other, “you’re so strong.” Recently, I heard it when a stoic widow gave the eulogy at her husband’s funeral, when a young boy broke his ankle but...