Nine Essestials Of True Love
Nine Essentials of True Love How do I know this is True Love? We come to this question from a million different directions. Maybe we think we’re in love for the first time and we have nothing to compare it to. Maybe we had no role models growing up. Maybe we...
Word of the Year: Part Two Gaslighting Relationships
Editor's Note: If you arrived here without reading Word Of The Year, Gaslighting part one, that's fine; however, you may want to check it out for some of the back stories on Gaslighting Relationships and why it's such an important issue for you to know. Still with me?...
Word of The Year: Gaslighting
I just learned that Merriam-Webster chose “gaslighting” to be their Word of the Year. Interesting choice. It certainly does seem as if gaslighting is everywhere. From dating to the workplace to politics you're either gaslighting or being gaslighted. Gaslit? Anyway, I...
4 Things I Learned and Relearned about owning a puppy
I thought my life was going pretty well. My business was growing and evolving, I felt like I was really making positive progress with my clients, my adult kids have their life on track and I’ve been enjoying spending time with my husband. The last thing I thought I...
BuffaloStrong
“What I am hopeful for is that this incident will bring us together, because… this could have been any one of us or any one of our loved ones… this should bring us together and not tear us apart.” ~Trini Ross, U.S. Attorney. Western District of New York I hope,...
What to Expect in Counseling
Most people who begin counseling are not sure what to expect. There are so many myths about what happens in counseling that can be misleading or contradictory. For instance, in the movies or on TV shows we see the main character lying down on a couch and talking about...
Life Candy, Marking Happiness
In my dream, I was with my daughter and someone else, my husband maybe, looking out at the Pacific Ocean from a space that could have been a park or a run-down but still beautiful office building. Someone was talking, I think my husband. Looking out at the ocean, the...
10 Tips to Survive Being the Scapegoat at Home
This article was inspired by your comments on the article Five Steps to Stop Being the Family Scapegoat. “What is your advice for someone who is a scapegoat living with their parents? I recently finished uni and until I get a job, I can’t move out and support myself.”...
Life Candy! Socks, Tarot Cards Plants and Groundhog Day!
This week we review the things that make life a little sweeter. We call it lifecandy.
Sweet Stuff To Go From Week To Weekend
Cheap & Quick lift! New nail color! Pick one up at Wegman’s along with some prepared pulled pork, green beans and mashed potato comfort food on your way home.Elvira G. Aletta, PhD, & CEO Founder, Explore What's NextA Happy surprise Tweet!A shout out from...
4 Ways To Survive Being A Buffalo Bills Fan
Our community is hurting right now. The Buffalo Bills lost an epic, heroic game with the Kansas City Chiefs last night. Anyone who has a pulse in this region is aware of the great disturbance in the Force surrounding Western New York. Yes, it’s just a football game...
Explore Therapy: A New Explore What’s Next Venture
I am so happy to announce the launch of Explore Therapy, a new integrated mental health service with Buffalo Pediatric Associates! Kate Maleski, LCSW-R, a senior associate at Explore What’s Next and I have partnered to create and manage this new venture. Explore...
The Only New Year’s Resolution I Need
My friend asked me if I made any New Year's resolutions. "I made only one resolution: to be nicer... to myself." She laughed. It was almost a spit-take! "I thought you were going to say 'be nicer to other people'," she said. "Nope," I said, "I'm good there. The...
Interview with Chris Sova Ph.D.
An Introduction by Elvira G. Aletta, PhD founder of Explore What's NextI am very excited to introduce Dr. Christopher Sova to you. Dr. Sova is a local son, born and bred in Western New York and proud of it! Not only does he have the education, skills and knowledge of...
The Shame of Seeking Counseling as a Man
There has ever been a voice in my head that whispers to me that I cannot share my pain, my sadness, my mistakes, or my fears. This same voice shouts at me that I must never show weakness. For I have learned that once people get a glimpse behind my armor of masculine...
10 Gifts to Give Yourself When Stress Is Making You Lose Your Shit
Stress can tip from bearable to overbearing in a split second. When you’re buckling under the stress, and who isn’t these days, give yourself these gifts. You have to give them to yourself because the reality is no one else will. Stress can be a gift. Stay with...
Naomi Osaka and Lessons from the Universe
When I heard about Naomi Osaka bravely saying no to the French Open, I was standing on my patio holding a cup of coffee close under my nose, working on closing my own stress cycle. The story wafted out of an open window from the radio in the kitchen. Ms Osaka, all of...
Explore What’s Next – ReOpening! April 1st!
Explore What’s Next is opening on April 1st (it’s not a joke!) – Read to learn about our safety measures.
The Tricky SCAMP of Overcoming Skin Picking and Hair Pulling Also Known As Body Focused Repetitive Behavior
The Tricky SCAMP of Overcoming Skin Picking and Hair Pulling Body Focused Repetitive Behavior Do you pick at your skin or have obsessive nail biting habits? Do you pull out your hair without awareness? If so, you may be struggling with a body-focused repetitive...
9 Steps to Getting Organized for a New Semester of College: Part 2
If you have not done so already, check out my blog post here on Part 1, Steps 1 – 5. Okay, you got your folders and notebooks (digital or hardcopy). Maybe you even organized your email and desktop. You also got your calendar/ planner and a to-do list ready to go!...
Nine Essestials Of True Love
Nine Essentials of True Love How do I know this is True Love? We come to this question from a million different directions. Maybe we think we’re in love for the first time and we have nothing to compare it to. Maybe we had no role models growing up. Maybe we...
Word of the Year: Part Two Gaslighting Relationships
Editor's Note: If you arrived here without reading Word Of The Year, Gaslighting part one, that's fine; however, you may want to check it out for some of the back stories on Gaslighting Relationships and why it's such an important issue for you to know. Still with me?...
Word of The Year: Gaslighting
I just learned that Merriam-Webster chose “gaslighting” to be their Word of the Year. Interesting choice. It certainly does seem as if gaslighting is everywhere. From dating to the workplace to politics you're either gaslighting or being gaslighted. Gaslit? Anyway, I...
4 Things I Learned and Relearned about owning a puppy
I thought my life was going pretty well. My business was growing and evolving, I felt like I was really making positive progress with my clients, my adult kids have their life on track and I’ve been enjoying spending time with my husband. The last thing I thought I...
BuffaloStrong
“What I am hopeful for is that this incident will bring us together, because… this could have been any one of us or any one of our loved ones… this should bring us together and not tear us apart.” ~Trini Ross, U.S. Attorney. Western District of New York I hope,...
What to Expect in Counseling
Most people who begin counseling are not sure what to expect. There are so many myths about what happens in counseling that can be misleading or contradictory. For instance, in the movies or on TV shows we see the main character lying down on a couch and talking about...
Life Candy, Marking Happiness
In my dream, I was with my daughter and someone else, my husband maybe, looking out at the Pacific Ocean from a space that could have been a park or a run-down but still beautiful office building. Someone was talking, I think my husband. Looking out at the ocean, the...
10 Tips to Survive Being the Scapegoat at Home
This article was inspired by your comments on the article Five Steps to Stop Being the Family Scapegoat. “What is your advice for someone who is a scapegoat living with their parents? I recently finished uni and until I get a job, I can’t move out and support myself.”...
Life Candy! Socks, Tarot Cards Plants and Groundhog Day!
This week we review the things that make life a little sweeter. We call it lifecandy.
Sweet Stuff To Go From Week To Weekend
Cheap & Quick lift! New nail color! Pick one up at Wegman’s along with some prepared pulled pork, green beans and mashed potato comfort food on your way home.Elvira G. Aletta, PhD, & CEO Founder, Explore What's NextA Happy surprise Tweet!A shout out from...