6 things to do when you can’t stop beating yourself up

Having short- and long-term goals is so important! What happens, though, when we don’t meet our goals?  There are times where I work hard all day and don’t meet my goals and I find myself saying, “What is wrong with me? I should have been more efficient!”...

Five Benefits of Therapy for Depression

About 5% of the world’s population suffers from depression at some time. In the US, depression is the leading disability for people between 15 and 45 years of age. The leading disability! That's ahead of cancer and heart disease! Chances are really good that you or...

How to Argue Nicely

Anytime you pair more than one person together there will be occasional problems. This is to be expected. Spouses argue, siblings argue, co-workers disagree and often argue. To a certain extent, the occasional argument is to be expected and is healthy. However, at...

3 tips for parents of a college freshman

Your baby, the one you’ve watched over and cared for the last 17-18+ years, is moving away. You don’t get to see them in the morning before your days start or at night before bedtime. It can feel like a huge loss, especially if this transition is making you an empty...

4 ways to begin to combat social anxiety

Do you get nervous speaking in public? Going to a new group where you might not know anyone? Having to make the dreaded small talk about the weather? Your mind might race, palms might sweat, words might not come out at all or at least not eloquently. We’ve all been...

5 Tips for College Freshman

“The college years are the best years of your life.” Now, I loved college and am nostalgic of the experiences. But I struggled at first--I felt incompetent, awkward, under-experienced, and homesick. Hearing that “college years are the best years” made me sad and...

Dr. Warren Keller’s New Role at Explore What’s Next!

We are so happy and honored to announce Dr. Warren Keller's new role as a consultant to Explore What's Next! For over thirty years, Dr. Keller's work with children and families has been highly esteemed by attorneys, physicians, professional colleagues, parents, and...

Meet Tacianna Indovina, Ph.D.!

Dr. Tacianna Indovina knew that she wanted to be a therapist since she was in high school. From that time, her love and enthusiasm for the healing power of psychotherapy hasn't wavered. It's a good thing for our community that Tacianna is as enthusiastic as ever for...

Explore What’s Next–The Studio Tour 2!

Today I officially received the keys to the new Explore What's Next Studio space! Just last week, when I took this video, it was still being roughed out but you could see how lovely it's going to be. We will take our time moving in and completing the work of making...

Help for Sexual Assault Victims Near Me

If you ever experienced a sexual assault there is help available near you. You do not need to keep those horrible memories in your head. The news during the last few weeks, especially today, may be triggering for anyone who has lived through any terrifying experience,...

Ten Reasons to Try my DBT Skills Group

Dialectical behavioral therapy, or DBT, is all about finding balance in your life.  It’s an excellent way to manage distressing emotions, negative behaviors, and interpersonal relationships.  I have found my group to be very helpful for all kinds of people—from the...

5 Ways to Leave Your Lover

An accomplished, smart, beautiful woman sits across from me in my office. She tells me about her relationship, the one she appears to be in but her boyfriend doesn’t. She has tried to leave him, she assures me (and herself) but every time she manages to walk out that...

4 Self-Care Tips When You Lose Your Beloved Pet

More Than Pets... Companions A few weeks ago we lost a horse at Maple Row Farm. Losing a horse makes the entire barn sad, even when it's expected. We don't call our horses 'pets'; to call a horse a pet just seems weird. But they are deeply loved animal companions....

What is Health Psychology?

Most of us have had the experience at one time or another of leaving an appointment with a physician feeling completely overwhelmed by what we have just gone through; from not understanding the medical language of your provider or not recalling the information shared...

What Is Meditation?

Meditation can be done in many different places, lots of different ways. So many times we think of meditation requiring a dark room with a single candle burning with the smell of sandalwood incense, and chimes in the background. While that's cool, meditation doesn't...

Take a Tour! Explore What’s Next: The Studio

Take a tour of Explore What's Next: The Studio! Still rough but taking shape! The Studio has been Dr. Aletta's dream for many years. It was developed to put into practice our belief that good mental health and psychotherapy is enhanced with nurturing, evidence-based...

5 Steps to Change Our Fast Food Habit

Sunday's are for sleeping just enough to feel indulgent, fixing a yummy hot breakfast (eggs and cornbread! Yum!) and diving into the Sunday Times. The top story in the Sunday Review section, usually a space to find analysis about the latest political snafu, was "Is...

A Mom’s Thoughts on Her Son’s Graduation

Graduation day is tough for adults. They go to the ceremony as parents. They come home as contemporaries. After twenty-two years of child-raising, they are unemployed.  ~Erma Bombeck Erma is talking about graduation from college but she describes so well how moms and...

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Four Rules of Engagement

You got engaged over the holidays! Congratulations! That is so exciting! I am very happy for you both. What's next? Wedding planning! Yay! Or is it, Yay? Turning to a pop culture reference I'm reminded of a scene in the movie Bride Wars. The focus finally turns away...

Grieving Around the Holidays

Grieving around the holidays is the norm for many, but it's not just humans who grieve. Jodi Picoult’s “Leaving Time” is one of my favorite books. It’s about a mother-daughter relationship where the mother is an elephant researcher. Already being a huge fan of...

5 New Years Resolutions That Can Make Us Happy

New Year’s resolutions. Just the words make my heart a little sad. What we need is a New Years resolution makeover! A resolution revolution if you will! I propose throwing those negative, judgy, restricting resolutions into the Explore What’s Next...

When Is It The Right Time To Break Up?

Around this time of year, along with the presents and twinkle lights, there are people holding their breath. They are holding their breath because they are in a relationship that isn't working and they're waiting for the right time to break up. If you are one of those...

My 3 Holiday Wishes For All Of Us

All I want for Christmas is to get through this season with some peace of mind, heart, and body. Is that asking too much? Sometimes I wonder. Even with all the tips, I've written about, and the great ones from others that I've read, I still find myself caught up in...

6 Ways How to Manage the Holidays With an Eating Disorder

The holidays can be a stressful time for anyone, but it is especially challenging if you are working to manage the holidays with an eating disorder.  When you have an eating disorder, holiday foods and holiday events with food can be huge triggers. There are a lot of...

6 Articles About Surviving The Holidays

The holidays are great in so many ways. It ranges from spending time with family and loved ones to just taking a break from the daily grind of routine. However sometimes this special time of the year starts to become burdensome and difficult on us and it becomes...

Tips For The Holidays!

The holidays are upon us! No matter if you celebrate Chanukah, Kwanzaa, Christmas or your own Winter Holiday like Festivus, we know that life gets hectic.  Truthfully, it's often fun and sometimes it can also be a stressful time for all of us. We asked the...

4 tips for online dating

Dating has changed drastically over the past generations. Although I have been dating my husband before online dating became popular, thus have never used it, I am a huge advocate for it! In the past, if we looked at married couples, most were from the...

3 Contributions to an Unhappy Marriage

Deciding if and when to go to couples therapy is really tough. We often hear people talk about efforts being “too little, too late.” According to the Gottman Institute (Gottman.com), the average couple waits 6 years before seeking help for marital...

Explore What’s Next offers psychotherapy, counseling, personal & executive coaching. We provide services for adults, couples, children, adolescents & families in a style that is compassionate, direct, and non-judgmental. Our approach is collaborative to maximize your counseling experience.

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