What to Expect in Counseling

What to Expect in Counseling

Most people who begin counseling are not sure what to expect. There are so many myths about what happens in counseling that can be misleading or contradictory. For instance, in the movies or on TV shows we see the main character lying down on a couch and talking about...

Life Candy, Marking Happiness

Life Candy, Marking Happiness

In my dream, I was with my daughter and someone else, my husband maybe, looking out at the Pacific Ocean from a space that could have been a park or a run-down but still beautiful office building. Someone was talking, I think my husband. Looking out at the ocean, the...

10 Tips to Survive Being the Scapegoat at Home

10 Tips to Survive Being the Scapegoat at Home

This article was inspired by your comments on the article Five Steps to Stop Being the Family Scapegoat. “What is your advice for someone who is a scapegoat living with their parents? I recently finished uni and until I get a job, I can’t move out and support myself.”...

Sweet Stuff To Go From Week To Weekend

Sweet Stuff To Go From Week To Weekend

Cheap & Quick lift! New nail color! Pick one up at Wegman’s along with some prepared  pulled pork, green beans and mashed potato comfort food on your way home.Elvira G. Aletta, PhD, & CEO Founder, Explore What's NextA Happy surprise Tweet!A shout out from...

4 Ways To Survive Being A Buffalo Bills Fan

4 Ways To Survive Being A Buffalo Bills Fan

Our community is hurting right now. The Buffalo Bills lost an epic, heroic game with the Kansas City Chiefs last night. Anyone who has a pulse in this region is aware of the great disturbance in the Force surrounding Western New York. Yes, it’s just a football game...

Explore Therapy: A New Explore What’s Next Venture

Explore Therapy: A New Explore What’s Next Venture

I am so happy to announce the launch of Explore Therapy, a new integrated mental health service with Buffalo Pediatric Associates! Kate Maleski, LCSW-R, a senior associate at Explore What’s Next and I have partnered to create and manage this new venture. Explore...

The Only New Year’s Resolution I Need

The Only New Year’s Resolution I Need

My friend asked me if I made any New Year's resolutions. "I made only one resolution: to be nicer... to myself." She laughed. It was almost a spit-take! "I thought you were going to say 'be nicer to other people'," she said. "Nope," I said, "I'm good there. The...

Interview with Chris Sova Ph.D.

Interview with Chris Sova Ph.D.

An Introduction by Elvira G. Aletta, PhD founder of Explore What's NextI am very excited to introduce Dr. Christopher Sova to you. Dr. Sova is a local son, born and bred in Western New York and proud of it! Not only does he have the education, skills and knowledge of...

The Shame of Seeking Counseling as a Man

The Shame of Seeking Counseling as a Man

There has ever been a voice in my head that whispers to me that I cannot share my pain, my sadness, my mistakes, or my fears. This same voice shouts at me that I must never show weakness. For I have learned that once people get a glimpse behind my armor of masculine...

10 Gifts to Give Yourself When Stress Is Making You Lose Your Shit

10 Gifts to Give Yourself When Stress Is Making You Lose Your Shit

Stress can tip from bearable to overbearing in a split second. When you’re buckling under the stress, and who isn’t these days, give yourself these gifts. You have to give them to yourself because the reality is no one else will.  Stress can be a gift. Stay with...

Naomi Osaka and Lessons from the Universe

Naomi Osaka and Lessons from the Universe

When I heard about Naomi Osaka bravely saying no to the French Open, I was standing on my patio holding a cup of coffee close under my nose, working on closing my own stress cycle. The story wafted out of an open window from the radio in the kitchen. Ms Osaka, all of...

9 Steps to Getting Organized for a New Semester of College: Part 2

9 Steps to Getting Organized for a New Semester of College: Part 2

If you have not done so already, check out my blog post here on Part 1, Steps 1 – 5. Okay, you got your folders and notebooks (digital or hardcopy). Maybe you even organized your email and desktop.  You also got your calendar/ planner and a to-do list ready to go!...

9 Steps to Getting Organized for a New Semester of College

9 Steps to Getting Organized for a New Semester of College

New Year! New Semester! Let’s Do This! The start of each semester is an opportunity to collect and reset ourselves on a path towards success. College is tough especially with all the rapid changes in course delivery. Now more so than ever, ORGANIZATION is critical to...

Thriving in Winter with Body-focused Repetitive Behaviors

Thriving in Winter with Body-focused Repetitive Behaviors

It's back, winter in Western New York, which means bitter cold winds, dry heat, and hot showers; all a recipe for dry uncomfortable skin, hair, and nails. Body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs) such as nail biting, skin picking, and hair pulling can be hard to...

Three Ways to Navigate the Holidays: Pandemic Style

Three Ways to Navigate the Holidays: Pandemic Style

As 2020 comes to a close, it’s okay to let out a long, deep sigh. For most people, this year has been tumultuous, difficult, and exhausting. And as the holidays arrive, we might need to find creative ways to navigate this season as well. While this time of year is...

Tips to Have a Happy Pandemic Thanksgiving

Tips to Have a Happy Pandemic Thanksgiving

Who doesn’t love Thanksgiving? No worrying about gifts! We get to focus on food, (one our favorite things!) and people, relationships, family, friends (more favorites! And, of course, gratitude.  This year it feels all turned upside down. The focus has shifted...

5 Tips to Help Parents Survive Distance Learning

5 Tips to Help Parents Survive Distance Learning

Can Parents Survive Distance Learning? The answer is highlighted in 7 Tips! Kids with Attention Challenges & Remote Learning, your child is the main focus of distance learning, but don’t forget a KEY ingredient to your child’s success: YOU.  It might be easy...

Explore What’s Next offers psychotherapy, counseling, personal & executive coaching. We provide services for adults, couples, children, adolescents & families in a style that is compassionate, direct, and non-judgmental. Our approach is collaborative to maximize your counseling experience.

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8 Ways to Combat Anxious Thoughts 

8 Ways to Combat Anxious Thoughts 

Anxiety, Worry and fear are emotions that everybody feels. Whether that is worrying about your family, finances, or health concerns. Everybody worries, but when this worry becomes consuming, consistent, and persistent it may impact your daily life. These feelings of...

Finding The Right Therapy for You Even if it’s Not CBT

Finding The Right Therapy for You Even if it’s Not CBT

Okay, okay, I know that everyone is pushing or hearing about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and why you should engage with a CBT-trained therapist. So why the hype?  Well, as a CBT-trained therapist, I can tell you that a ton of research supports this treatment, and at...

5 Ways to Play With Your Kid

5 Ways to Play With Your Kid

Play provides enjoyment, curiosity, excitement, diversion, and allows us to be fun and silly. Beyond the fun and games, play is important! Play allows children to learn about themselves and others, explore their own interests, be creative, and try on different roles,...

The Importance of Unstructured Play in Childhood Development

The Importance of Unstructured Play in Childhood Development

Once upon a time, in a small suburban neighborhood, there lived a young girl named Lily. She resided in a quaint house on Elm Street, where her life was consumed by a whirlwind of structured activities and endless lessons. From the moment she woke up until the late...

Community Health and Advocacy Conference

Community Health and Advocacy Conference

Explore What's Next is a psychotherapy practice located in Western New York that stands out from other regional practices due to our support on trauma prevention and community intervention. As a forward-looking and proactive organization, we believe in looking towards...

Nine Essestials Of True Love

Nine Essestials Of True Love

  Nine Essentials of True Love How do I know this is True Love? We come to this question from a million different directions. Maybe we think we’re in love for the first time and we have nothing to compare it to. Maybe we had no role models growing up. Maybe we...

Word of the Year: Part Two Gaslighting Relationships

Word of the Year: Part Two Gaslighting Relationships

Editor's Note: If you arrived here without reading Word Of The Year, Gaslighting part one, that's fine; however, you may want to check it out for some of the back stories on Gaslighting Relationships and why it's such an important issue for you to know. Still with me?...

Word of The Year: Gaslighting

Word of The Year: Gaslighting

I just learned that Merriam-Webster chose “gaslighting” to be their Word of the Year. Interesting choice. It certainly does seem as if gaslighting is everywhere. From dating to the workplace to politics you're either gaslighting or being gaslighted. Gaslit? Anyway, I...

4 Things I Learned and Relearned about owning a puppy

4 Things I Learned and Relearned about owning a puppy

I thought my life was going pretty well. My business was growing and evolving, I felt like I was really making positive progress with my clients, my adult kids have their life on track and I’ve been enjoying spending time with my husband. The last thing I thought I...

BuffaloStrong

BuffaloStrong

“What I am hopeful for is that this incident will bring us together, because… this could have been any one of us or any one of our loved ones… this should bring us together and not tear us apart.” ~Trini Ross, U.S. Attorney. Western District of New York I hope,...

Explore What’s Next offers psychotherapy, counseling, personal & executive coaching. We provide services for adults, couples, children, adolescents & families in a style that is compassionate, direct, and non-judgmental. Our approach is collaborative to maximize your counseling experience.

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