Tips to Have a Happy Pandemic Thanksgiving

Tips to Have a Happy Pandemic Thanksgiving

Who doesn’t love Thanksgiving? No worrying about gifts! We get to focus on food, (one our favorite things!) and people, relationships, family, friends (more favorites! And, of course, gratitude.  This year it feels all turned upside down. The focus has shifted...

5 Tips to Help Parents Survive Distance Learning

5 Tips to Help Parents Survive Distance Learning

Can Parents Survive Distance Learning? The answer is highlighted in 7 Tips! Kids with Attention Challenges & Remote Learning, your child is the main focus of distance learning, but don’t forget a KEY ingredient to your child’s success: YOU.  It might be easy...

Why am I damaging my hair, skin, & nails when I am stressed?

Why am I damaging my hair, skin, & nails when I am stressed?

Why am I damaging my hair, skin, and nails when I am stressed?! Do you bite your nails or cuticles until they hurt?Do you pull your hair until you have bald spots?Do you pick at your skin until you have multiple bloody spots on your face? You are not alone! You are...

7 Tips! Kids with Attention Challenges & Remote Learning

7 Tips! Kids with Attention Challenges & Remote Learning

Parent's all over the Western New York Region are experiencing the difficulty of connecting children with Attention Challenges to Remote Learning. Having the kids home 24/7 AND for many, also working from home, AND helping them each step of the way with their school...

Near Me: 5 Parks to Visit After a Therapy Session

Near Me: 5 Parks to Visit After a Therapy Session

Therapy is great, but homework isn’t.  At the end of my last therapy session, my therapist asked “So have you made any more headway in that workbook I recommended?” The smile on my face fell slightly. ‘Shit.’ I, in fact, had not opened that work book in over a...

Depression or Grief: Five ways to give ourselves a break

Depression or Grief: Five ways to give ourselves a break

Here are some things I’ve learned from my experience of crashing and burning and getting back on track again.  Five ways we can give ourselves a break You are not crazy. Stop gaslighting yourself. It’s not mental illness if you are reacting to an event in your...

EMDR Helps To Heal A Painful Past

EMDR Helps To Heal A Painful Past

When healing a painful past event requires more than talking it out, EMDR is there to help Intrusive memories: they can happen to all of us.  You think that you’re over your parents’ divorce from over 20 years ago, but every now and then, and completely out of...

Daughter is a VSCO Girl, What Does That Mean?

Daughter is a VSCO Girl, What Does That Mean?

First of all, don’t panic. It is perfectly normal to be a VSCO girl.  Second of all, I am 26 years old and I just found out about VSCO girls in October. I went into work and one of my colleagues was playfully teasing the other. He turned to me and laughed “Isn’t...

Chronic Illness in the Time of COVID

Chronic Illness in the Time of COVID

In the old movie Broadcast News, the Holly Hunter character, I forget her name, would take time for herself every morning to cry. She just cried. There was no apparent trigger, no reason or justification ever given for why this intelligent, intense, professional woman...

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RE-OPENING!

AN OPEN LETTER TO OUR EXPLORE WHAT'S NEXT CLIENTS REGARDING RE-OPENING OFFICES! All of us at Explore What’s Next sincerely hope this finds you well. Thank you so much for your patience, flexibility, and resilience during this time of great change. The transition to...

Will Tele-Therapy Work For Me?

Will Tele-Therapy Work For Me?

Throughout the United States and around the world, people are connecting with Explore What’s Next for therapy sessions through tele-sessions. Geography is no longer an obstacle to getting the help you need! Tele-sessions are more like office visits than you think....

DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) Group Info

DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) Group Info

Explore What’s Next is now recruiting new participants for virtual Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Skills Groups! In the wake of the COVID 19 pandemic, a lot of people are struggling with increased isolation from their loved ones and friends.  Depression,...

COVID-19 Stuck at home? 10 Tips For Parents

COVID-19 Stuck at home? 10 Tips For Parents

Stuck at home?Here are (hopefully) 10 helpful Tips For Parents for you and your family during this time: A snow day (or two) is fun…but more than a few days stuck at home can quickly become overwhelming. Given the current health crisis and closure of schools, many...

Explore What’s Next Speaker Series-Mindy Scime

Explore What’s Next Speaker Series-Mindy Scime

People pleaser is a label I hate. That it is accurate when used to describe me just makes me hate it more. My ability to be a people pleaser was off to an early start when I first impressed my dad with my reading skills. The book was Little Bear by Elsa Holmelund...

The 3 Challenges of Coronavirus Anxiety & What to Do About Them

Coronavirus Anxiety: 3 Challenges & What to Do About Them

Coronavirus. Just the word causes faster heart rates, shorter breaths and queasy stomachs, hallmark signs of anxiety.  There have been many times when I’ve written about our psychological reaction to current affairs on this blog. Game-changing events, natural...

Three Steps To Control Your Anger

Three Steps To Control Your Anger

Anger is a perfectly OK emotion. A natural reaction to feeling threatened, the expression of anger, especially for women, has been given a bad rap. While growing up, I was encouraged to deny my anger, to feel somehow guilty or apologetic for it. Angry women are called...

Dream Made Manifest: The Studio at Explore What’s Next

Dream Made Manifest: The Studio at Explore What’s Next

The Studio at Explore What's Next is a long hoped for dream made manifest.      The dream was to have a place where people, like me, who at some point or other, feel raw and vulnerable, can find a safe haven. In the center of that safe haven, there is the...

The Proposal, The Ring

The Proposal, The Ring

Four months after I met John I proposed marriage to him.  He said, “No. Thank you.”  I was twenty-nine when we met. He was the life partner I had been waiting for. He loved me but he didn’t believe in marriage. OK, I thought, I’ll give him a year. ...

Explore What’s Next offers psychotherapy, counseling, personal & executive coaching. We provide services for adults, couples, children, adolescents & families in a style that is compassionate, direct, and non-judgmental. Our approach is collaborative to maximize your counseling experience.

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4 Things I Learned and Relearned about owning a puppy

4 Things I Learned and Relearned about owning a puppy

I thought my life was going pretty well. My business was growing and evolving, I felt like I was really making positive progress with my clients, my adult kids have their life on track and I’ve been enjoying spending time with my husband. The last thing I thought I...

BuffaloStrong

BuffaloStrong

“What I am hopeful for is that this incident will bring us together, because… this could have been any one of us or any one of our loved ones… this should bring us together and not tear us apart.” ~Trini Ross, U.S. Attorney. Western District of New York I hope,...

What to Expect in Counseling

What to Expect in Counseling

Most people who begin counseling are not sure what to expect. There are so many myths about what happens in counseling that can be misleading or contradictory. For instance, in the movies or on TV shows we see the main character lying down on a couch and talking about...

Life Candy, Marking Happiness

Life Candy, Marking Happiness

In my dream, I was with my daughter and someone else, my husband maybe, looking out at the Pacific Ocean from a space that could have been a park or a run-down but still beautiful office building. Someone was talking, I think my husband. Looking out at the ocean, the...

10 Tips to Survive Being the Scapegoat at Home

10 Tips to Survive Being the Scapegoat at Home

This article was inspired by your comments on the article Five Steps to Stop Being the Family Scapegoat. “What is your advice for someone who is a scapegoat living with their parents? I recently finished uni and until I get a job, I can’t move out and support myself.”...

Sweet Stuff To Go From Week To Weekend

Sweet Stuff To Go From Week To Weekend

Cheap & Quick lift! New nail color! Pick one up at Wegman’s along with some prepared  pulled pork, green beans and mashed potato comfort food on your way home.Elvira G. Aletta, PhD, & CEO Founder, Explore What's NextA Happy surprise Tweet!A shout out from...

4 Ways To Survive Being A Buffalo Bills Fan

4 Ways To Survive Being A Buffalo Bills Fan

Our community is hurting right now. The Buffalo Bills lost an epic, heroic game with the Kansas City Chiefs last night. Anyone who has a pulse in this region is aware of the great disturbance in the Force surrounding Western New York. Yes, it’s just a football game...

Explore Therapy: A New Explore What’s Next Venture

Explore Therapy: A New Explore What’s Next Venture

I am so happy to announce the launch of Explore Therapy, a new integrated mental health service with Buffalo Pediatric Associates! Kate Maleski, LCSW-R, a senior associate at Explore What’s Next and I have partnered to create and manage this new venture. Explore...

The Only New Year’s Resolution I Need

The Only New Year’s Resolution I Need

My friend asked me if I made any New Year's resolutions. "I made only one resolution: to be nicer... to myself." She laughed. It was almost a spit-take! "I thought you were going to say 'be nicer to other people'," she said. "Nope," I said, "I'm good there. The...

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