Five Signs that Your Job is Toxic

Five Signs that Your Job is Toxic

In my college years,  attaining independence became my primary goal.  To me, independence meant being able to support myself. It seemed like I was working so hard toward one goal: getting a “good job.”  For example, I thought a good job equaled full-time...

Best Blog Articles on Explore What’s Next 2018!

Best Blog Articles on Explore What’s Next 2018!

How long can we be wishing each other a Happy New Year? A very hip friend of mine who knows these things answered with confidence, “All the way through January!”Taking this bit of wisdom, I decided it wasn’t too late for a good old fashioned “Best of 2018”...

3 Myths about What it Means to be Strong

3 Myths about What it Means to be Strong

There are many myths about what it means to be strong. In a variety of contexts, I hear people say to each other, “you’re so strong.”  Recently, I  heard it when a stoic widow gave the eulogy at her husband’s funeral, when a young boy broke his ankle but...

Four Rules of Engagement

Four Rules of Engagement

You got engaged over the holidays! Congratulations! That is so exciting! I am very happy for you both. What's next? Wedding planning! Yay! Or is it, Yay? Turning to a pop culture reference I'm reminded of a scene in the movie Bride Wars. The focus finally turns away...

Grieving Around the Holidays

Grieving Around the Holidays

Grieving around the holidays is the norm for many, but it's not just humans who grieve. Jodi Picoult’s “Leaving Time” is one of my favorite books. It’s about a mother-daughter relationship where the mother is an elephant researcher. Already being a huge fan of...

5 New Years Resolutions That Can Make Us Happy

5 New Years Resolutions That Can Make Us Happy

New Year’s resolutions. Just the words make my heart a little sad. What we need is a New Years resolution makeover! A resolution revolution if you will! I propose throwing those negative, judgy, restricting resolutions into the Explore What’s Next...

When Is It The Right Time To Break Up?

When Is It The Right Time To Break Up?

Around this time of year, along with the presents and twinkle lights, there are people holding their breath. They are holding their breath because they are in a relationship that isn't working and they're waiting for the right time to break up. If you are one of those...

My 3 Holiday Wishes For All Of Us

My 3 Holiday Wishes For All Of Us

All I want for Christmas is to get through this season with some peace of mind, heart, and body. Is that asking too much? Sometimes I wonder. Even with all the tips, I've written about, and the great ones from others that I've read, I still find myself caught up in...

6 Ways How to Manage the Holidays With an Eating Disorder

6 Ways How to Manage the Holidays With an Eating Disorder

The holidays can be a stressful time for anyone, but it is especially challenging if you are working to manage the holidays with an eating disorder.  When you have an eating disorder, holiday foods and holiday events with food can be huge triggers. There are a lot of...

6 Articles About Surviving The Holidays

6 Articles About Surviving The Holidays

The holidays are great in so many ways. It ranges from spending time with family and loved ones to just taking a break from the daily grind of routine. However sometimes this special time of the year starts to become burdensome and difficult on us and it becomes...

Tips For The Holidays!

Tips For The Holidays!

The holidays are upon us! No matter if you celebrate Chanukah, Kwanzaa, Christmas or your own Winter Holiday like Festivus, we know that life gets hectic.  Truthfully, it's often fun and sometimes it can also be a stressful time for all of us. We asked the...

4 tips for online dating

4 tips for online dating

Dating has changed drastically over the past generations. Although I have been dating my husband before online dating became popular, thus have never used it, I am a huge advocate for it! In the past, if we looked at married couples, most were from the...

3 Contributions to an Unhappy Marriage

3 Contributions to an Unhappy Marriage

Deciding if and when to go to couples therapy is really tough. We often hear people talk about efforts being “too little, too late.” According to the Gottman Institute (Gottman.com), the average couple waits 6 years before seeking help for marital...

6 things to do when you can’t stop beating yourself up

6 things when you can’t stop beating yourself up

Self-criticism is awful! Having short- and long-term goals is so important! What happens, though, when we don’t meet our goals?  There are times where I work hard all day and don’t meet my goals and I find myself saying, “What is wrong with me? I should have been more...

Five Benefits of Therapy for Depression

Five Benefits of Therapy for Depression

About 5% of the world’s population suffers from depression at some time. In the US, depression is the leading disability for people between 15 and 45 years of age. The leading disability! That's ahead of cancer and heart disease! Chances are really good that you or...

How to Argue Nicely

How to Argue Nicely

Anytime you pair more than one person together there will be occasional problems. This is to be expected. Spouses argue, siblings argue, co-workers disagree and often argue. To a certain extent, the occasional argument is to be expected and is healthy. However, at...

3 tips for parents of a college freshman

3 tips for parents of a college freshman

Your baby, the one you’ve watched over and cared for the last 17-18+ years, is moving away. You don’t get to see them in the morning before your days start or at night before bedtime. It can feel like a huge loss, especially if this transition is making you an empty...

4 ways to begin to combat social anxiety

4 ways to begin to combat social anxiety

Do you get nervous speaking in public? Going to a new group where you might not know anyone? Having to make the dreaded small talk about the weather? Your mind might race, palms might sweat, words might not come out at all or at least not eloquently. We’ve all been...

5 Tips for College Freshman

5 Tips for College Freshman

“The college years are the best years of your life.” Now, I loved college and am nostalgic of the experiences. But I struggled at first--I felt incompetent, awkward, under-experienced, and homesick. Hearing that “college years are the best years” made me sad and...

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Three Steps To Control Your Anger

Three Steps To Control Your Anger

Anger is a perfectly OK emotion. A natural reaction to feeling threatened, the expression of anger, especially for women, has been given a bad rap. While growing up, I was encouraged to deny my anger, to feel somehow guilty or apologetic for it. Angry women are called...

Dream Made Manifest: The Studio at Explore What’s Next

Dream Made Manifest: The Studio at Explore What’s Next

The Studio at Explore What's Next is a long hoped for dream made manifest.      The dream was to have a place where people, like me, who at some point or other, feel raw and vulnerable, can find a safe haven. In the center of that safe haven, there is the...

The Proposal, The Ring

The Proposal, The Ring

Four months after I met John I proposed marriage to him.  He said, “No. Thank you.”  I was twenty-nine when we met. He was the life partner I had been waiting for. He loved me but he didn’t believe in marriage. OK, I thought, I’ll give him a year. ...

Do I have the winter blues or am I depressed?

Do I have the winter blues or am I depressed?

Ah, the winter blues. As Game of Thrones fans often quote, “Winter is coming.” Most people cherish sunshine and the summer, especially in Buffalo! I know I’m not the only one who is hearing people complain about the colder, darker days that are happening. For many,...

Am I a bad parent for wanting to go back to work?

Am I a bad parent for wanting to go back to work?

I’ve been avoiding writing this post because I’m a first-time parent and I’ve been struggling with some guilt for returning back to work myself. My son is almost three months old and I returned to work part-time after seven weeks. I was, am, and will likely continue...

Grand Opening The Studio

Grand Opening The Studio

The EWN Studio is a place where mind+body+spirit thrives.  Celebrate this special place with us at our Grand Opening!This Thursday, September 12, from 5:00PM to 8:00PM. Drop by any time between 5 & 8! Bring the family! It’s totally free!There will be...

Five Tips to Handle Toxic Food Culture in the Workplace 

Five Tips to Handle Toxic Food Culture in the Workplace 

We have a problem in the modern-American workplace: toxic food culture.  Our views around food—what’s acceptable to eat, what’s “good” and what’s “bad,” how people choose to eat their food—have become very distorted. We live in a culture of dieting and “lookism.”...

5 tips that help my recovery from depression and might help you

5 tips that help my recovery from depression and might help you

Recovery from depression isn't easy. Coming out of depression isn't like flipping a light switch, one day you're in the dark pit, the next you're in a room flooded with light. I'm going to try to describe what it's really like here because this is what is happening to...

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