Is It OK To Cuss In Therapy?

Is It OK To Cuss In Therapy?

This has happened so many times. I'm working with a client. In the middle of a session, deep in conversation. They let out a  "F&%k" or a "Sh*t!"  after which, as if they had emitted a very loud, involuntary fart, they slap their hand over their mouth. Eyes wide...

Why Try Therapy?

Why Try Therapy?

Why try therapy? That's a great question. Let me tell you a story, and then I'll tackle some common objections to trying therapy. I got a free trial of Sirius radio a few years ago when I bought my car. I was changing channels and stumbled upon Jonah Hill talking to...

5 Steps To Stop Being The Family Scapegoat

5 Steps To Stop Being The Family Scapegoat

Are you your family's scapegoat? How would you know? Do you find yourself on the defensive a lot? Do you hear stories, first or second hand, from various members of the family about your bad behavior? Stories that are very old, or not true or at best,...

Can Therapy Be Fun?

Can Therapy Be Fun?

Can therapy be fun? Therapy is tough work! Some people say they feel exhausted after a counseling session. After all, it often involves talking about feelings and life events that are very difficult. At the same time, it can be fun and humorous! Humor is an important...

Could You Use a Therapist?

Could You Use a Therapist?

There are a lot of people out there who could use a good therapist only they don't know it.  Do you wonder if you could use a therapist’s help but always seem to talk yourself out of it?  You could think you are functioning just fine and still be in need of help. When...

Five Signs that Your Job is Toxic

Five Signs that Your Job is Toxic

In my college years,  attaining independence became my primary goal.  To me, independence meant being able to support myself. It seemed like I was working so hard toward one goal: getting a “good job.”  For example, I thought a good job equaled full-time...

Best Blog Articles on Explore What’s Next 2018!

Best Blog Articles on Explore What’s Next 2018!

How long can we be wishing each other a Happy New Year? A very hip friend of mine who knows these things answered with confidence, “All the way through January!”Taking this bit of wisdom, I decided it wasn’t too late for a good old fashioned “Best of 2018”...

3 Myths about What it Means to be Strong

3 Myths about What it Means to be Strong

There are many myths about what it means to be strong. In a variety of contexts, I hear people say to each other, “you’re so strong.”  Recently, I  heard it when a stoic widow gave the eulogy at her husband’s funeral, when a young boy broke his ankle but...

Four Rules of Engagement

Four Rules of Engagement

You got engaged over the holidays! Congratulations! That is so exciting! I am very happy for you both. What's next? Wedding planning! Yay! Or is it, Yay? Turning to a pop culture reference I'm reminded of a scene in the movie Bride Wars. The focus finally turns away...

Grieving Around the Holidays

Grieving Around the Holidays

Grieving around the holidays is the norm for many, but it's not just humans who grieve. Jodi Picoult’s “Leaving Time” is one of my favorite books. It’s about a mother-daughter relationship where the mother is an elephant researcher. Already being a huge fan of...

5 New Years Resolutions That Can Make Us Happy

5 New Years Resolutions That Can Make Us Happy

New Year’s resolutions. Just the words make my heart a little sad. What we need is a New Years resolution makeover! A resolution revolution if you will! I propose throwing those negative, judgy, restricting resolutions into the Explore What’s Next...

When Is It The Right Time To Break Up?

When Is It The Right Time To Break Up?

Around this time of year, along with the presents and twinkle lights, there are people holding their breath. They are holding their breath because they are in a relationship that isn't working and they're waiting for the right time to break up. If you are one of those...

My 3 Holiday Wishes For All Of Us

My 3 Holiday Wishes For All Of Us

All I want for Christmas is to get through this season with some peace of mind, heart, and body. Is that asking too much? Sometimes I wonder. Even with all the tips, I've written about, and the great ones from others that I've read, I still find myself caught up in...

6 Ways How to Manage the Holidays With an Eating Disorder

6 Ways How to Manage the Holidays With an Eating Disorder

The holidays can be a stressful time for anyone, but it is especially challenging if you are working to manage the holidays with an eating disorder.  When you have an eating disorder, holiday foods and holiday events with food can be huge triggers. There are a lot of...

6 Articles About Surviving The Holidays

6 Articles About Surviving The Holidays

The holidays are great in so many ways. It ranges from spending time with family and loved ones to just taking a break from the daily grind of routine. However sometimes this special time of the year starts to become burdensome and difficult on us and it becomes...

Tips For The Holidays!

Tips For The Holidays!

The holidays are upon us! No matter if you celebrate Chanukah, Kwanzaa, Christmas or your own Winter Holiday like Festivus, we know that life gets hectic.  Truthfully, it's often fun and sometimes it can also be a stressful time for all of us. We asked the...

4 tips for online dating

4 tips for online dating

Dating has changed drastically over the past generations. Although I have been dating my husband before online dating became popular, thus have never used it, I am a huge advocate for it! In the past, if we looked at married couples, most were from the...

3 Contributions to an Unhappy Marriage

3 Contributions to an Unhappy Marriage

Deciding if and when to go to couples therapy is really tough. We often hear people talk about efforts being “too little, too late.” According to the Gottman Institute (Gottman.com), the average couple waits 6 years before seeking help for marital...

6 things to do when you can’t stop beating yourself up

6 things when you can’t stop beating yourself up

Self-criticism is awful! Having short- and long-term goals is so important! What happens, though, when we don’t meet our goals?  There are times where I work hard all day and don’t meet my goals and I find myself saying, “What is wrong with me? I should have been more...

Five Benefits of Therapy for Depression

Five Benefits of Therapy for Depression

About 5% of the world’s population suffers from depression at some time. In the US, depression is the leading disability for people between 15 and 45 years of age. The leading disability! That's ahead of cancer and heart disease! Chances are really good that you or...

Explore What’s Next offers psychotherapy, counseling, personal & executive coaching. We provide services for adults, couples, children, adolescents & families in a style that is compassionate, direct, and non-judgmental. Our approach is collaborative to maximize your counseling experience.

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Why am I damaging my hair, skin, & nails when I am stressed?

Why am I damaging my hair, skin, & nails when I am stressed?

Why am I damaging my hair, skin, and nails when I am stressed?! Do you bite your nails or cuticles until they hurt?Do you pull your hair until you have bald spots?Do you pick at your skin until you have multiple bloody spots on your face? You are not alone! You are...

7 Tips! Kids with Attention Challenges & Remote Learning

7 Tips! Kids with Attention Challenges & Remote Learning

Parent's all over the Western New York Region are experiencing the difficulty of connecting children with Attention Challenges to Remote Learning. Having the kids home 24/7 AND for many, also working from home, AND helping them each step of the way with their school...

Near Me: 5 Parks to Visit After a Therapy Session

Near Me: 5 Parks to Visit After a Therapy Session

Therapy is great, but homework isn’t.  At the end of my last therapy session, my therapist asked “So have you made any more headway in that workbook I recommended?” The smile on my face fell slightly. ‘Shit.’ I, in fact, had not opened that work book in over a...

Depression or Grief: Five ways to give ourselves a break

Depression or Grief: Five ways to give ourselves a break

Here are some things I’ve learned from my experience of crashing and burning and getting back on track again.  Five ways we can give ourselves a break You are not crazy. Stop gaslighting yourself. It’s not mental illness if you are reacting to an event in your...

EMDR Helps To Heal A Painful Past

EMDR Helps To Heal A Painful Past

When healing a painful past event requires more than talking it out, EMDR is there to help Intrusive memories: they can happen to all of us.  You think that you’re over your parents’ divorce from over 20 years ago, but every now and then, and completely out of...

Daughter is a VSCO Girl, What Does That Mean?

Daughter is a VSCO Girl, What Does That Mean?

First of all, don’t panic. It is perfectly normal to be a VSCO girl.  Second of all, I am 26 years old and I just found out about VSCO girls in October. I went into work and one of my colleagues was playfully teasing the other. He turned to me and laughed “Isn’t...

Chronic Illness in the Time of COVID

Chronic Illness in the Time of COVID

In the old movie Broadcast News, the Holly Hunter character, I forget her name, would take time for herself every morning to cry. She just cried. There was no apparent trigger, no reason or justification ever given for why this intelligent, intense, professional woman...

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RE-OPENING!

AN OPEN LETTER TO OUR EXPLORE WHAT'S NEXT CLIENTS REGARDING RE-OPENING OFFICES! All of us at Explore What’s Next sincerely hope this finds you well. Thank you so much for your patience, flexibility, and resilience during this time of great change. The transition to...

Will Tele-Therapy Work For Me?

Will Tele-Therapy Work For Me?

Throughout the United States and around the world, people are connecting with Explore What’s Next for therapy sessions through tele-sessions. Geography is no longer an obstacle to getting the help you need! Tele-sessions are more like office visits than you think....

Explore What’s Next offers psychotherapy, counseling, personal & executive coaching. We provide services for adults, couples, children, adolescents & families in a style that is compassionate, direct, and non-judgmental. Our approach is collaborative to maximize your counseling experience.

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