Divorced or separated dads worry a lot
about being able to be the best fathers to their kids they
can under the stress of co- and single parenting. I realize we all worry plenty, divorced or not, but today I want to focus
on resources for the dads who are trying to do it on their own.
Because of the change in living arrangements, not being a residential parent and having to see their kids on a schedule divorced dads might think their importance to their children has suddenly diminished. This is absolutely not so.
Research supports the fact that fathers have a vital role in
the development of their childrens' self-image
and self-esteem. Being present, involved, engaged and invested in the kids in a genuine way comes through and makes a huge difference even if you only see them every other weekend or less.
I hope you find these resources helpful. If you have other links or books to add to the list, please let me know in the comments!
Dad Alone: How to Rebuild Your Life and Remain an Involved Father After Divorce
Divorced Fathers: Birthdays and Holidays
Resources for Divorced Fathers
Divorced Dad's Survival Book: How to Stay Connected With Your Kids
Dr. Aletta,
Thank you for this wonderful resource. Although I am not divorced, many of my clients are. We often forget the hardship and anguish that divorced or separated dads experience.
Often times the first question that comes to many peoples minds when they meet a divorced dad is whether or not he’s meeting his alimony payments. Fathers who are dedicated to their children are in tremendous pain (whether they show it or not) wanting nothing more than to provide for the physical, emotional, and mental needs of their children.
While the stress of a single mother may be categorically different than that of a single father, we would still do well to acknowledge, recognize and validate the pain of single fathers.
Well said, Ben. Thanks.
I recently came across your blog and have been reading along. I thought I would leave my first comment. I don’t know what to say except that I have enjoyed. Really a nice post here!
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