A common trap for couples is to blame the other for their problems, as in “If he would just be nicer to me I would be nicer to him!” or “If she would just stop nagging, I wouldn’t avoid going home after work.”

If each of them took personal responsibility, stopped waiting for the other to change, took the risk to act in the manner they want to be treated, the couple has a chance to break out of their tar pit of accusations to discover happiness.


Photo courtesy Ivars Kroutanis