Whenever people call me for a referral I encourage them to be picky about who they choose for a therapist, whether it's me or someone else. That's one reason I offer a free initial consultation. I know what a big commitment it is emotionally and financially to enter therapy. Wouldn't it be irresponsible not to pay attention to the therapist's credentials, training, philosophy of treatment and that harder to define trait – fit?
And then there's the deal breakers. I know it takes guts, but if your therapist habitually does any of the things on the list in this article talk to him/her about it. After all, we work for you. Not the other way around.